Wednesday, March 3, 2010

The Mother, the Son, and the Ghosts


It was hard for Ira Stone to believe that Aaron Lane was his son after his ex-wife Phyllis told him she had relations with his father. After all, Aaron had Jacob's Mezuzah. It was almost impossible to reconcile with Jacob, there had been a lifetime of hurt and disappointment on both sides, but Ira needed some closure. How ever it went, Ira had managed to rebuild his life after his stroke, and nothing could invalidate that.

Jacob came over one day, not expecting ghosts from the past to rise again, but they did. In a volatile exchange with Ira, this father and son reached an understanding. It would take a lot of work, but for the first time everything was on the table and it wasn't hidden behind irreconcilable expectations.

Ira came to accept that Aaron was his son. A bit of research on Nexus Lexis gave him insight as to how broken he really was. Phyllis's years of drug and alcohol abuse, violent relationships, felonies, suicide attempts, etc. There was no question that Aaron learned his behavior from example.

Aaron's counselor arranged a group session for Ira, Michael, Jacob and Aaron. It was important to begin healing everyone's wounds. The ghosts needed to be buried in order for a healthy multi-generational reconciliation to begin. Everyone would be responsible for building trust if this family was to begin functioning. To start, Ira offered Aaron the opportunity to continue his education. Ira recognized that this might have been a bit premature for Aaron, and allowed him to be the architect of his own life, supporting him in any way he could. And that is the greatest gift any father can give his son.

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